When – Then: Allowing God to fill our wells

This week in our online Bible study of A Confident Heart by Renee Swope, we are on chapter three, “Finding Love that Won’t Fail Even When I Do”. I highlighted many sections throughout the chapter, but the following quote sums up the chapter for me.

“Our schedules are full, our minds are full, our stomachs are full, our refrigerators are full, our closets are full, our lives are full. Yet we find ourselves with so many empty places. Why? Because the wells of our hearts were created to be filled by God alone. . . By recognizing and replacing our emptiness with the fulness of God’s promises, we drink the gift of living water. We  acknowledge our need, which allows Him to pour His truth into the well of our hearts.”

At the end of the chapter there are questions to help us think through the ideas presented during the chapter. Question 7 says:

“We were made for love that isn’t measured by our last accomplishment but marked by God’s measureless grace (pg. 62). Write a few when-then statements for areas of your life where you can apply this truth.”

ImageHere are my “when-then” statements:

1. When I am tempted to measure my value by how well I am doing as a mother, I will stop. Then, I will thank God that He always sees me as precious and valuable.

2. When I am tempted to fill my emptiness by eating, I will stop. Then, I will celebrate God’s presence and thank Him for his sufficiency to meet all my needs.

3. When I am tempted to look to my husband to meet all my needs, I will stop. Then, I will rejoice that God loves me with a perfect love and He is sufficient for all my needs.

4. When I am tempted to satisfy my needs by being overly busy, I will stop. Then, I will seek God’s wisdom and guidance in my life and trust Him to provide for my needs.

As I read through this chapter, I was reminded of how we get tricked into thinking so many other things will meet our needs, and we switch from relying on God to relying on other things. It’s good to try to be the best mother possible, but I will fail. My husband is a wonderful person, but he is only human and will never satisfy all my desires. Food is necessary for life, but eating doesn’t satisfy emotional needs. Work provides income and a measure of satisfaction, but work was never meant to fill the God-sized hole in my heart.

Renee reminds us:

“A confident heart is found in a woman who knows beyond the shadow of a doubt that she is loved no matter what. Lasting security comes when we bring the empty well of our hearts to Jesus and ask Him to fill and fulfill us with the security of His unfailing love.”

She also says:

“Salvation is a one-time decision, but finding satisfaction in Christ and living in the security of His promises is a daily process.”

I don’t know about you, but I need these reminders. I am saved, and I have found satisfaction in Christ, but I often get derailed in my walk with Him. Today I am choosing to live in the security of God’s promises. Tomorrow, and the next day and each day after that, I will need to “recalibrate” and choose again.

Are you choosing to find satisfaction in Christ so that you can live in the security of His promises?


  1. Barbara Boldt on October 24, 2013 at 6:49 am

    Ruth thank you for sharing this with me. We all need to be remined that God will give us all that we really need to keep our life and hearts filled. I believe in his greatness and all he gives us is all we need to be happy and content in our life the rest is only window dressing and not worth buying into. Blessing to you and your family. B

    • Ruth L. Snyder on October 24, 2013 at 1:07 pm

      Thanks for stopping by, Barb. May we both continue to choose to follow Him and allow Jesus Christ to meet all our needs!

  2. Christine on October 24, 2013 at 12:58 pm

    Oh and it’s so easy to get tricked sometimes! You’d think we’d learn but we’re really dumb sheep sometimes aren’t we?

    • Ruth L. Snyder on October 24, 2013 at 1:05 pm

      Yes, Christine. It seems like we have very thick skulls sometimes and it takes a long time for us to learn. Good thing we have a patient Shepherd 🙂

  3. Mary (OBS Group Leader) on October 24, 2013 at 4:50 pm

    Ruth, I relate to each and everyone one of those When/Then statements! Isn’t it funny how we as wife/moms go through a lot of the same doubts yet we think we are all alone sometimes? The awesome thing is we are not alone! Nope. God is there waiting for us to turn to Him with just a little bit of faith while thinking good thoughts. He is there to tell us we are worthy of all great things!!! Love this post!!

    Hugs and prayers!

    ~ Mary

  4. lexiedache on October 24, 2013 at 5:39 pm

    Great post Ruth!! I need these reminders too!

  5. Karen Lange on October 27, 2013 at 1:10 pm

    What a wonderful question – our security is in Him! Trusting for more of a revelation of that each day. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

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